Are You A Virgin?

Feeling really funny writing this.. Has anybody asked you this question? Are u a virgin? I know u ll laugh. Do u remember anyone asking you this? I guess you would. It’s a mandatory question for guys during the ice-breaking session, at college or at work..Some would get embarrassed and some would feel so proud to disclose their Valery. So sacred is virginity in India. I am not debating the fact that one should (should not) be virgin until marriage. Just remembered how Indians are prepared (not) to lose virginity or even if lost to keep it secret… An average Indian loses his/her virginity at an age of 23.. I didn’t say that- Times of India did. We aren’t too fast, are we ?? But why?? When the biology book says reproduction is equally important as respiration, digestion and metabolism!!! End of reproduction class our teachers NEVER forget to mention, though important for examination, this isn’t as important as eating, drinking and sleeping (literal terms)...In a school like mine which was full of nuns who never would have lost their treasure over anyone (no comments!! ) blessed with a head mistress Mary Lobo, who would start class with a geography chapter and probably end with either a moral science or sex education chapter, we were bound to mentally block ourselves even with the thought of it and live with the nightmare to have had lost it. All I can remember about that lady was – Don’t do anything WRONG. Become something and wait! Look he will be at your door, asking your dad – Sir I WANT TO MARRY YOUR DAUGHTER!! Jeez what dramatic expressions she had. For real we all would go to the same dreamland where she was imagining a handsome, rich guy knocking.. Nope ringing the doorbell… most of the times all of us thinking about the same guy, because it was a girls school and there were very few good looking guys in boys school.(yeah we had St. josephs girls and boys school separate)... It was a warning not just a lesson. I am sure most of the schools have this form of sex education. Even the video they showed was so terribly scary, that anyone who would watch that will give up on the thoughts of having sex. Spooky – some good for nothing movie they played so that we carry the same impression to college too and hate all men. This is just an example. Our surroundings is like that. You watch any bollywood/tollywood/sandalwood movie. Typical story : hero – heroine part because of some reason – they don’t see each other for 10 years – they meet again after 10 years and ting! she hasn’t been seeing anyone yet and still is virgin. Sometimes stories go beyond – she will be married to another man but still would not have had sex with him – still better , she will have a kid with her husband but yet virgin (IVF is popular these days may be!).. The last thing women in Indian film industry would want to lose is virginity(in movies )
Girls also never admit. There was this girl I know who would get high(or pretend to be high) and want to get lucky with any guy available. The next morning when she is all sober, she would want him to say nice things about her. It’s human to want to hear nice things about oneself. After all that, whenever she heard people call her bad, she would cry for having been called by names and had tried commiting suicide once too. In real whether she is virgin or no, people should just call her virgin must be her intention. So virginity is a must tag for girls.
Then comes the guys. I have so many guys saying I will wait for the right woman. Wait for the right woman to make out and what if she turns out to be wrong? Is there a reverse process? But this population is very less compared to the population who would want to prove the peers their real power. For a girl to lose virginity it’s a shame – but for some guys it’s a honor. More early you lose, more better it is for him. I guess this is only limited to a certain age group. When these guys grow up, they turn out to be ‘I will wait for the right woman’ character. I guess so. Its only my assumption..

But I think its mere human or rather Indian to find out if the girl is a virgin. It doesn’t apply for guys I believe. Anyone who asks a girl if she has a boyfriend would have the intention to know if she is virgin as well. It’s a combo question. It’s a combo of “do you have a boyfriend?” with a hidden “are you a virgin” question along. This incident is a must tell when I am talking about losing virginity. I was in school when I went to a far relatives wedding. Wedding was in Sirsi(Karnataka) and the guy was from a village near by. After the wedding we went to the guys house. All the women were shyly whispering into brides and grooms ears something. I am sure it would be a theory class on how to make out. People those days were really innocent, and I am sure this was much needed. I didn’t say anything about that. But the next thing they did was spooky, they have this ritual that the groom should keep some dakshina ( money) under the bed at night. Morning they are not supposed to remove the sheet!! Know the intention??? Yes, just to find out if the lady had bled and was a virgin!!! At that age I could know the intention. Why is everyone inquisitive to know?? Is it such a thing that the whole world has to know? If she hadn’t bled did it mean she wasn’t a virgin? It could also mean they didn’t make love, isn’t it??
I feel weird now after I wrote this, but I really did want to write. Why is everyone want to know this? Any idea?